Aren’t these the cutest kids you’ve ever seen? I certainly think so. Of course, I might be a bit biased. The one on the left has my features. It’s not something people seem to want me to talk about, best it be swept under the rug. But that’s not my style.

She is my daughter. Well, perhaps I should rephrase. I am her birth mother. When I was a senior in college, I became pregnant one drunken night. It isn’t anything my parents or their friends or the members of my church wanted to hear or believe about me. The girl who won Neighborhood Bible Time and Clubber of the Year in AWANA each year. It was so taboo.

This was when I finally learned not everything in life is about me. I was listening to “the Fray” tonight and heard, they say the best way out is through. It is. Gracie is a happy girl with a brother who is her best friend. Occasionally I see her. I see her and I ball my eyes out for days, but that doesn’t mean I regret any of it. I’m happy she’s happy and I’m grateful for her wonderful parents who love her and me regardless of mistakes.

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  1. I'm was a product of the same sort of drunken night. Adopted when I was 7 days old.

    I have 4 children – two of whom are adopted.

    I've seen the system from both sides.

    And you know what? It works, it TOTALLY works –

    because of selfless decisions like yours.

    Thanks for letting us see a glimmer of it. I love the sparkle in her eyes.

    Well done – on EVERY count.

    friend of Melinda
    loving your blog!

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